The Moment I Realized I Was Lost.(Love That Changed Everything)
Motherhood changes everything your heart, your priorities and even your sense of who you are. From the moment I held my baby in my arms, I knew life would never be the same. A love I had never known before filled every part of me, but it also made me realize I was slowly losing every piece of myself. Between the sleepless nights, endless feedings and whispered lullabies, I stopped recognizing the woman in the mirror. This is the story of how I lost myself in motherhood and how that same love that changed everything helped me find myself again.
In the early weeks after my baby was born, everything revolved around her tiny needs. My days blurred into each other feed, burp, change, repeat. I barely had time to shower, always wrapped in wrapper, not applying cream on my body let alone think about myself.
At first, I brushed it off as “just a phase. But one afternoon, as I stood in front of the mirror trying to comb my hair for the first time in days, I didn’t recognize the woman staring back. Her tired eyes, messy hair and worn out pajamas weren’t the problem it was the emptiness behind them.
I wasn’t spending time or even doing the things I enjoy, like hanging out with friends, travelling and watching movies. I wasn’t laughing like I used to. All the things that once made me, had faded into the background.
It hit me hard I had poured every ounce of myself into being a mom and somewhere along the way, I had forgotten to be me too.
Why It Happens (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)
No one really warns you about this part of motherhood. They tell you about sleepless nights and baby blues, but not about how easy it is to lose yourself in the process of caring for someone else.
Here’s the truth:
Society often glorifies self-sacrifice in mothers. We’re told that a “good mom” always puts her children first. Our priorities shift overnight and suddenly, our identity is tied to our new role.
Time for ourselves feels selfish, even when we desperately need it. Losing yourself isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a natural part of adjusting to one of life’s biggest transformations. But just because it’s common, doesn’t mean it’s permanent.
The Turning Point: Realizing I Deserved to Exist Too. Love Changed Everything
One night, after yet another exhausting day, I cried quietly while holding my sleeping baby. My love for her was infinite but so was my exhaustion. And in that moment, I whispered to myself, I miss me.
That night, I promised myself something small but powerful: I would find her again. The woman I was before motherhood. Not to replace the mom I had become, but to bring her back alongside this new version of me.
How Love Changed Everything And I Slowly Found Myself Again.
It didn’t happen overnight. But step by step, I began putting myself back together. Here’s what helped me the most.
1. I Gave Myself Permission to Matter
I stopped believing that taking time for myself was selfish and minimizing my feelings. It wasn’t abandoning my child it was refilling my cup so I could pour even more love, patience and care into her.
2. I Reconnected With My Passions
Before motherhood, I loved hanging out with friends, traveling to new places, and watching movies whenever I had free time. Life felt spontaneous and carefree and I enjoyed every moment of it.
3. I Asked for Help and Accepted It
This one was hard. I prided myself on doing it all. But learning to let my family help wasn’t weakness. It was strength and it gave me space to breathe again.
4. I Rebuilt My Routine Around Us Not Just Baby
I stopped trying to “get back” to my old life and instead built a new rhythm. One that included motherhood and me. A morning walk with the stroller became our ritual time for my mental health and bonding with my baby.
5. I Showed Myself Compassion
Some days I still felt lost. And that’s okay. Healing isn’t linear. On those days, I reminded myself I’m growing, learning and becoming. Motherhood didn’t erase me it’s just rewriting my story.
The Woman I Found Was Different And That’s Beautiful
Here’s the truth I never fully went “back” to who I was before becoming a mom.
I became someone new softer and stronger, exhausted and powerful, tired and deeply alive.
Motherhood didn’t take me away. It simply transformed me. And now, I carry the best parts of who I was and who I’ve become, side by side.
You Are Still You (A Love That Changed Everything)
If you’re reading this and feeling like you’ve lost yourself, please believe me you’re still there. Under the laundry piles and lullabies, beneath the tired eyes and messy house the woman you were still exists.
She’s waiting patiently for you to reach for her again, start small and breathe deeply, do one thing just for you today. You deserve to exist outside of motherhood and your child deserves to see their mama living fully too.
FAQs About the Love that Changed Everything Motherhood
Q1 : How does life change after becoming a mother ?
Life changes in almost every way your priorities shift, your daily routine is different and your focus often moves from yourself to caring for your baby.
Q2 : Will I still have time for myself ?
Once in a while free time becomes limited, small moments for self-care like journaling, a quick walk or a warm bath can help you stay balanced.
Q3 : How does motherhood affect emotions ?
Motherhood brings intense emotions, from overwhelming love and joy to moments of anxiety, exhaustion or self-doubt. It’s completely normal.
Q4 : Can motherhood change relationships ?
Yes, your relationships with your partner, family and friends often shift. Open communication and support are key to maintaining healthy bonds.
Q5 : How do I cope with all these changes ?
accept that change is natural, seek support, trust your instincts and remember that every mother’s journey is unique.
Q6 : Does everything change forever ?
While life evolves, motherhood also brings growth, new strengths and a deeper sense of purpose that lasts a lifetime.
